Updated: Mar 1

To Forgive or Not to Forgive...That Is The Question!

We’re told countless times...Forgive!

“Forgive those who hurt you a thousand times over because it’s you that will heal from the suffering”. Forgive the guilty one because it’s setting your heart free from the pain, otherwise the grievance will decay your heart! We are constantly bombarded with this advice by the very ones who lack familiarity with the fundamental definition of forgiveness. Even more concerning, they do not understand the ALMIGHTY ONE’s definition and principles of forgiveness.

How can you truly forgive someone if you do not know the true definition of the word Forgive?

Secondly, you must make a determination between the original concept of forgiveness in the 1st Testament scriptures and the contrasting view in the 2nd Testament scriptures, for they each give opposing guidelines and principles regarding the elements of forgiveness.

You may be surprised at the uncovering of both viewpoints from the 1st Testament and the 2nd Testament revealing the radical shocking difference that each portrays regarding the basic framework of forgiveness.

Defining Forgiveness

Let's begin by defining the word "forgiveness" within the english language. We will then examine additional terms that are crucial elements in clearly defining the issue we are dealing. It is important that the terms are being accurately understood in their true meaning.


  • To give up resentment against or stop wanting to punish (someone) for an offense or fault; pardon.

  • to cease to blame or hold resentment against (someone or something)

  • to grant pardon for (a mistake, wrongdoing, etc)

  • to free or pardon (someone) from penalty

  • to free from the obligation of (a debt, payment, etc)

  • to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, sin, etc.); absolve.

  • to pardon an offense or an offender.

  • Excuse, pardon, acquit, remit/forgive

Pardon: To allow (an offense or fault) to pass without punishment or disfavor.


  • Able to make moral or rational decisions on one's own and therefore answerable for one's behavior.

  • being the primary cause of something and so able to be blamed or credited for it.


  • Law To find not guilty of a criminal offense

  • to free or release (from a charge of crime)

  • to pronounce not guilty

  • to declare not guilty of a crime or offense; release from a charge.


  • Responsible for a reprehensible/blameworthy act; culpable/at fault.

  • Law Found to have violated a criminal law by a jury or judge.

  • Deserving blame, as for an error

  • responsible for an offense or misdeed

  • (Law) "plead guilty" law (of a person charged with an offense) to admit responsibility; confess

  • having committed an offense, crime, or wrong, esp. against moral or penal law; culpable: to be found guilty of murder.

Bear in mind the definitions associated with the terms and keep in mind some important aspects concerning the concept of forgiveness:

  1. Who instituted the Law in which something is deemed right or wrong by which it becomes an offense? This determines who the offense is against.

  2. Who holds the authority/power to distribute the determining of punishments and rewards?

  3. Is man capable/equipped mentally to make moral and rational decisions? Will man be answerable for his behavior? If so, in what sense?

  4. Is there a difference between the accountability of the Christian man vs. the non-Christian man?

  5. Do both groups equally possess the ability to make moral decisions?

  6. How shall man give an account? How was it determined? Who determined it?

The 2nd Testament concept of Forgiveness

Jesus said to various individuals, "your sins are forgiven" (Luke 7:48, Matthew 9:5-6, Mark 2:5, KJV).

The original greek word used for forgiveness in these passages is, ἀφίημι aphíēmi, (G863 Strong's Concordance) meaning, "to send (put) away".

This surprised the jewish leaders of that time because they recognized it as blasphemy for anyone to "put away" someone's sins other than the GOD of Israel. It was believed that only HE had the authority and power to pardon/forgive an offense to the law...given that HE is the one who instituted the law.

When Jesus boldly proclaimed and confirmed in the book of Matthew that he possessed the power on earth to forgive sins... he was indeed setting himself equal with the GOD of Israel in a subtle way, for he did not say straightforwardly, "I am God and therefore I have the power and right to forgive/pardon sins". While this may be a trivial matter to some, it is a grave source of conflict and divide within the Christian faith. There is a difference from having to assume or presuppose the claim that "he (Jesus) is God" in contrast to hearing it directly stated from his mouth "I am God". In considering his discreteness in coming forward and directly stating that "he is God" or "the son of God" has an undertone of fear. This highlights a stark difference in character as the GOD of Israel stated clearly in no uncertain terms that HE alone is GOD (Isaiah 42:8, KJV).

Jesus also began to set something else in motion, it was the idea that justice could be forgone/neglected or the sense that people would not and are not taking responsibility for their own actions. Jesus told them plainly, that the wrong things that they had done, the acts of breaking the laws of the CREATOR...were pardoned/allowed to pass without punishment. This is a major aspect of Christianity. The concept that sins are forgiven/pardoned and thereby Christians are not under the wrath of GOD and not condemned to suffer the wrath of the GOD of Israel. The very same wrath/punishment/judgment that is justly instituted and established by the GOD of Israel for breaking HIS commandments.

In some sense, Jesus instituted a dimension of irresponsibility in that he conveyed on a psychological level that men no longer had to be responsible/answerable before GOD for breaking HIS laws because he (Jesus) would be accountable/pay the penalty for them.

"And he is the propitiation for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for the sins of the whole world" (1 John 2:2, KJV).

"Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed" (Isaiah 53:4-5, KJV).